Emotions are felt very differently by kids and adults. As houses are perceived huge by kids, and ok by adults, so are emotions. As “big” houses are scary for kids, and ok for adults, so are emotions.
Emotions are not diminished or “learnt” by being experienced many times form childhood to adulthood. They imprint the person with their print the first time they come, and the print stays. When they are allowed to be felt and released, they come new every time afterwards, with new prints. You will not change your perception about a certain emotion just because it happened many times before and because you are now older (or wiser). You change your perception because you let it go every time, so the emotion meets a “new” you when it comes again, and you choose differently every new time, because it’s natural, as you are different now.
As we do not hide houses from the children just because they perceive them as huge and scary, we are not to hide emotions. We let the house be, and hold the little one in our arms, providing reassurance, doing it over and over as many times as necessary.
We are to do the same with emotions.
Emotions are meant to be lived, felt. The same emotion will feel differently at different ages. A “huge” upset at 2 (years old), will not be so huge at 40. On the condition it was completely felt – meaning energetically released from your aura – at 2. When you do not let your emotions be felt, they will “remember” the age you had when you felt them last, and didn’t release. They – the emotions – will rewind that particular moment until they are released. When you feel sudden fear when a door is closing, and you are 60, you know that this is your emotion of a very young child who cannot “see” behind a closed door, fearing that she has suddenly remained all alone and knowing nothing about the world.
Children are equipped to deal with “big” emotions. It is part of the process of growing up from fearing a “big” house into “what a den this is!”. They will remember fearing the house, and they will not still hold the terrifying emotion of what scary it is. The fear had been lived and well gone. They will remember it, and not still be terrified by it. The reason for this quite “general” conscious feeling is that many children live this particular experience by themselves, not sharing it with an adult, being able to live their emotions at their own “child” path.
When children live their emotions, they scare – hit strongly – the adults around them because the adults start feeling their own emotion as kids, but with their adult “mind”, energy. An “adult” scary house is much, much bigger and dangerous than a “kid” scary house. The magnitude of the emotion remained, while the magnitude of the event had lowered significantly. The adult will not be able to see this difference, she will not be able to discard the emotion by employing reason, and will live the emotion at its full magnitude with the additional baggage of an adult.
When children live their big emotions, be with them. Keep neutral if they do not ring any bell to you, witnessing them. And live your own emotion accompanying the kid while you’re already being given the opportunity. The two kids – the “real” one and your inner child – will know how to handle things.
Children’s emotion are big, adults’ emotions are deep.
