We all have our inner own mechanisms to fulfill our desires and meet our life purpose.
Our life purpose reveals itself in our thoughts and emotions, in our goals, our desires.
When we want something, we are seldom able to explain why, and we are quite naturally already on the way of getting it – materializing.
As our world “evolved”, an “explanation” was necessary. And soon “demanded”. Emotions were suddenly not enough, reason was to reign. Everything must be done for a reason. And not because I or you feel like it.
“Discipline” will break you kids – as much as it broke you – it will discontinue and repel your kids’ natural ability to materialize – accomplish things, receiving what they want, living their own experiences, developing their sense of accountability, dealing with choices, responsibility and consequences.
As a kid’s lack of sleep or overwhelming chocolate intake will be naturally stopped and corrected very quickly, the teen’s or adult’s drugs addictions or poor relationship choices, for example, will not be addressed and corrected as swift and with no consequences.
Being allowed to live their choices, having their own experiences and conclusions, being able to make new choices and “meet” the natural consequences, children naturally grow to making more empowered decisions and healthier choices as they grow physically. They will know when to stop, when to ask for reference, whom to ask for reference, and when to go. No decision will be “requested” from them when they are not ready – prepared and fit. The Universe – us – does not push us into deadend experiences with no solution.
The purpose is to grow, and do it organically. As you are not allowed by nature to command your child’s physical body to grow, you are not allowed – by the same nature – to interfere with your child’s other choices, like emotional, mental and spiritual. Even if you can.
Let your children develop. Know that they will know when to come to you for reference. Express your opinion. More to yourself, seeing your own breaks – places where you were broken – and addressing them care-fully.
Children have innate “discipline” – their own method to fulfill their mission, to accomplish their purpose, to accomplish their goals – their desires. And so do we.
