You simply cannot put somebody else but you first. Literally.
Physically speaking, you are meant to survive. Any action you take is intended toward the survival of the species – that includes you. You are ALWAYS putting YOURSELF first!
If you somehow developed the belief that you need to be dismissive, inferior, weaker, in order to survive, putting your opponent first is your way of overcoming the obstacle. If you “discovered” that by “sacrificing” yourself, you can “get away with it” unpunished – I meant ALIVE!!! – that’s your developed, habitual way to stay alive. If your perceived experience was that by bullying others you’d stay alive, this is what you’re gonna do from now on to.
Therefore, next time you “think”: “I’ve put him/ her first”, change your perspective into “this is how I put myself first”. Take the ownership of the fact that by “sacrificing yourself”, “by standing inferior”, “by backing off” (and any other similar action or stand that looks like the other has an advantage) is how you chose to put yourself first. Acknowledge and take ownership of your power released in your action. You Are Powerful. How you choose to use your power is just that, your choice. If you don’t like the place you’re in, how it looks, accept that you are powerful and (from now on) act accordingly. Put yourself first consciously, firmly and powerfully.
(ps it does not however mean strongly, loudly and fierce-fully. By acknowledging your power, staying connected with it, taking ownership, you will naturally move into the centered place of accepting who you are, inherently knowing you are important, and your “stand”, behavior, will naturally change accordingly)
And call your angels, masters and guides when you are doing it.
